About the Book

Distinguishing between mere politeness and genuine civility, Hudson draws from classical to modern thinkers to stress the need for open discourse and mutual respect. She advocates for valuing others enough to voice disagreements and foster open debates.

This book serves as a beacon of hope, suggesting that individual steps towards civility can collectively reshape our world. Don’t miss this enlightening conversation on the essence of true civility, brought to you in collaboration with Sagamore Institute and the Harrison Center.

For any questions about this event, please contact our Operations Manager, Chase Elliott at chase@sagamoreinstitute.org



Some of the greatest thinkers of our day —Francis Fukuyama, Jonathan Haidt, Tyler Cowen and others — have endorsed her book. Her book was also just selected as a  “must read book” for Malcom Gladwell’s book club.

She has also convened some of the most innovative and surprising thinkers of our day for a Civility Summit timed with the book launch, on Oct 9th, inviting nearly a dozen of today’s greatest minds— from David French of the NYT, to philosopher Cornel West and Russel Moore, CEO of Christianity Today & many others—to explore the role of civility in contemporary life. 

If you can’t make the launch party — or even if you can — you can claim your spot to the summit by clicking the button below.


“In my book, The Soul of Civility: Timeless Principles to Heal Society and Ourselves, coming out in October, I show why civility—basic respect for others—is essential to a free society. Here’s a story that exemplifies why. 

In the early 2000s, Mayor Michael Bloomberg launched a campaign against rudeness in New York City.  Subway riders and show-goers could be fined fifty dollars for inconsiderately resting their feet on a bench or for using their phones during movies or Broadway shows. The city’s noise code was overhauled to crack down on loud nightclubs and barking dogs and to promote neighborhood peace. Cell phones were banned in movie theaters, and smoking was banned in public places. 

New Yorkers and local parents did not quite like being “civilized” by their local government. While proponents argued that having these laws on the books in the first place was enough to improve behavior, the laws went largely unenforced and were soon recognized as entirely ineffective. 

Bloomberg isn’t the only technocrat who tried—unsuccessfully—to socially engineer civility. Similar “politeness campaigns” were tried in London and Paris in the last few decades—and related efforts have been implemented across history, too. 

We take for granted the many freedoms we enjoy. The ability to move, leave our jobs to pursue better opportunity, worship where and how we want, and more, however, have not always been part of the human experience. We often overlook the moral underpinnings, as well as the norms of restraint and self-sacrifice, that support the freedoms we enjoy in contemporary, democratic societies. 

By regulating the manifestations of our selfishness, civility supports our personal and political freedom. When too many of us fail to exercise civility, people will begin calling for the government to restrain us through laws and regulation. Civility promotes the virtue and self-government that allow us to thrive in community, uninhibited by either tyranny or fear of our fellow citizens. 

By pre-ordering my book,—and also claiming the $700 worth of gifts I’ve created for you to enjoy now!—I hope you’ll join me in this movement to support and maintain the tenets of a free society, one act of decency and courtesy at a time.”